Christian Family Relationships

W. Terry Varner
October 26, 2014

The biblical worldview involves relationships: Man’s relationship to the earth and his environment (Gen. 2:15). 2) Man’s relationship to God (Gen. 2:16-17). 3) Man’s relationship to his wife and family which serve as the basis for creating a stable society. Destroy these relationships and the biblical worldview is destroyed and the world in which man lives is in chaos.

All we have to do to understand the above is open our eyes and think about the situation of the world around us. Sin abounds and seems to “wax worse and worse” (2 Tim. 3:13, KJV), or “grows worse and worse” (NKJV), or is going “from bad to worse” (ESV). In fact, 2 Timothy 3:1-13 is an excellent commentary on the world in which we live as Christians. Read, study, and meditate upon it.

The Bible’s object of discussing family relationships show that no element of disorder must exist in practicing Christianity. Peter discusses the relationship between husbands and wives and insists on their need of being godlike.

The Christian Wife. It is common sense to understand that a Christian wife is to have proper relationship with her husband. To develop that relationship properly she is to cultivate “the hidden person of the heart” (1 Peter 3:4) or the Christian life. The cultivating the Christian life is more desirable and profitable to the Christian wife and her family relationships than the ornamenting of the physical body. God claims that the life of the Christian wife is made beautiful through the power of the Lord Jesus Christ. This personality and spirituality is described as an “ornament of gentile and quit spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God” (1 Peter 3:4).

This enables the wife, at times, to win the non-Christian husband to Christ (1 Peter 3:1-2). Peter sets forth the three-fold life of the Christian woman to her husband: 1) Submissiveness to her husband (1 Peter 3:1), 2) Chaste behavior (1 Peter 3:2). 3) Her fear or reverence of God (1 Peter 3:2). The Christian wife who possesses these qualities has a powerful weapon—the silent preaching of a lovely life.

The Christian Husband. Likewise, it is common sense that a Christian husband is to have proper relationship with his wife. The husband in performing the duties as the head of the home is to honor his wife for the life she lives and regard her as precious. He is to remember that she is the weaker vessel of two. Peter’s point of the wife being the “weaker vessel” (1 Peter 3:7) does not refer to moral, intellectual, or spiritual weakness, but physical. This suggests that she needs his care and protection just as he needs her help or ministrations.

Though the husband occupies the higher office in the institution of marriage, he must render honor to his wife because they are “heirs” together of the grace of life” (1 Peter 3:7).

1 Peter 3:7 concludes with an important lesson for husbands and wives and their prayer life. Where there is mutual desire for the welfare of the other, a family’s prayer life is rich; however, when the mutual love and respect are lacking their prayers are “hindered” (1 Peter 3:7). Hindered means to “cut in” or “to interrupt.” The signs of an injured wife comes between the prayers and God God’s blessings. Marital problems can render prayers lifeless and meaningless.

When the husband and wife discharge their worthily and properly prepared duties, they in turn present a life of reverence toward God and His will. Why? They are living holy lives as He is holy (1 Peter 1:16).