He Who Would Have Friends

J. D. Conley
December 3, 2017

"Friend" defined: "A person whom one knows, likes and trusts," (Webster's II New College Dictionary, 448).

The Bible has a lot to say about friends. Solomon penned, "A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother" (Pro. 18:24).

We are attracted to friendly people as well as friendly animals. We distance ourselves from mean and ugly people and so called pets. But good characteristics will win us friends, "He that loveth pureness of heart, for the grace of his lips the king shall be his friend" (Pro.22:11). But if we are self-centered, snobbish, clannish, quick tempered or unpleasant, people will stay away from us. Pro. 17:17 states, "A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity."

Christ is our great example in friendship, (cf. Mt.11:19; Mk.5:19; Jn.11:30-35; 15:13,14). What is the motivation behind our desire for friends? Is it to assist us in social climbing? To have others to lean on in times of distress? For companionship to escape loneliness? There ought to be one paramount motive for friendship, and that is to save others. We seek to persuade men to follow Christ so eternal salvation can be theirs to enjoy

When are you really a friend? When you do good for others like the friendly Samaritan. Being a friend means having sympathy, (Lk.10:33). Being a friend means involvement, v.34. Being a friend is personal, v.34. Being a friend costs something, v.34. Being a friend involves action - "Go and do likewise" (Lk.10:37).

May we study the examples of friendship in the Bible, David and Jonathan, Barnabas and Saul, Jesus and Lazarus. This will assure you and I of having true friends.

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