"Live Joyfully With Thy Wife"

J. D. Conley
March 22, 2015

For a man who had "seven hundred wives...and three hundred concubines" (1Kings11:3), the above admonition taken from (Ecclesiastes 9:9), is surprising. Be that as it may, Solomon spoke by inspiration of the Holy Spirit making his words Divine will. Being inspired did not make Solomon, or any other Biblical writer sinless, only infallible when they wrote or spoke God's Word. The third king of Israel could have spared his life untold grief if he had simply lived by the inspired word revealed to him.

What steps can a Christian husband take to insure he lives joyfully with his wife? He should:

Converse & Communicate. Some husbands don't enjoy the company of their wives as much as they should. They spend more time with their buddies and hobbies than they do their wife. It makes one wonder why they married in the first place. As a result he barely converses with her, much less communicates. Both conversation and communication are essential to have a happy marriage. Husbands should take the time to talk and listen to their wives.

Praise & Pray. A good wife is a rarity, (Proverbs 31:10). The husband should praise her as well as pray for her. It is most foolish and selfish for any husband to take his good wife for granted. Everyday thank God for her and shower her with praise and adoration.

Forgive & Forget. Even the best wife is not perfect, nor is the best husband. Forgiveness of past wrongs is key for the continuation of a happy marriage. Once you forgive your wife, never bring it up again. Few things destroy joy in a marriage quicker than opening up an old wound that has scarred over, (Eph.4:32).

Assist & Aid. Help out around the house. Wash the dishes, vacuum, do the laundry. Aid and assist your wife in any way you can. Assist her in the mundane work that is required in every marriage, (1 Peter 3:7).

Remember & Regale. Husbands be careful to remember your wedding anniversary, and to talk of your wedding day. Be sure to remember her birthday, Valentine's Day, etc. Every once in a while talk about how you met, your first date, amuse yourselves from days gone by. Doing so will be a reminder of why you chose each other.

Hold Hands & Hug. Too many husbands become indifferent about these little acts of affection. Show your wife you love her in these small ways. Put more of the human touch back in your marriage, "...rejoice with the wife of thine youth" (Proverbs 5:18). And be:

Tender & True. No husband is perfect. But you can be faithful and true to your wife. Tenderness and truthfulness sums up fairly well what a wife wants from her husband. Being sweet and true, these two things alone, will result in you living joyfully with your wife.

"Husbands, love vour wives, and be not bitter against them" (Colossians 3:19).