The Death of a Loved One

J. D. Conley
August 11, 2013

Even though we know death is inevitable, even though we shun the mere thought of it at times, death is nonetheless a reality we are forced to confront. Unless the Lord returns first, we all will have to make the trek over Jordan’s icy wave, (1Thess.4:15ff; Heb.9:27).

But not only are we required to wrestle with our own appointment with death, we are forced to also deal with the death of others. Comparatively speaking, this is sometimes more difficult. Especially it is burdensome when death appears on the doorstep of a loved one. When death hits home, strikes a family member, lays its putrid finger upon a father, son, mother, daughter, husband or wife, expectantly or unexpectantly, this is when death unmasks if s heinous and sinister character. Death, because it is so common and widespread, is something we often see affecting others, and truly we feel for those who lose their loved ones. However, when death makes its unwelcome presence known in our family circle, it is particularly repugnant and ugly. Nothing on earth causes more mental anguish and heart-wrenching sorrow than the death of a loved one.

Therefore, this hard fact calls for each one of us to make certain that we cope with the death of a loved one in a proper way. The following points should aid us in doing so.

Death Is Coming. We don’t know when or how. But we do know it is coming and that it's eventual arrival cannot be stopped. The Bible is replete with passages that remind us that death is relentlessly marching toward each one of us. Therefore, we ought to constantly be living in expectation of it. Whether death comes suddenly, or is dragged out on a bed of affliction, its coming nonetheless and we must brace ourselves for it. Whether it be our death, or the death of a loved one, may we always remain aware of its possible arrival at any moment.

Eternal Life Is Not Promised Here. Everyone of us are pilgrims upon God’s footstool. As the song truthfully expresses, "this world is not my home, I’m just a passing through." Even Methuselah, who lived 969 years was only a pilgrim. So it is with you and I, and each one of our loved ones. Our home is in heaven, not here on this ball of dirt, (2Cor.5:1-2).

God Still Loves You. Just because death strikes a loved one is no reason for anyone to think that God no longer loves or cares for us. Death is here because of our sin, (Rom.5:12), therefore its consequences, death, (Rom.6:23) should not be blamed on God. But God has provided not only victory over the grave, but eternal life through Jesus Christ, (Rom.6:23; 1Cor. 15:54-55). If God did not love us, these blessings would not be ours to look forward to.

The death of a loved one is always hard. But maybe these three truths will help us in dealing with this the most unwelcomed visitor when he makes his unwanted appearance. Remember, we are not alone when those times come (Ps.23:4; Pro.18:24; Heb.13:5).